Dating You.

(This post was originally created in 2020, and it feels good to share it now.)

They: Are you dating now?

ME: Yes.

THEY: That's nice. Anyone I know?

Me: You're looking at her.

THEY give a weird look.

ME: I'm in a relationship with myself and it's beautiful. So much discovery.

THEY: Sounds lonely.

ME: Sometimes it feels quiet - being alone. Dating myself means I make the time to work out, eat healthily, explore my spirit as I explore new places and create things.

I think it sounds rough and lonely for people who feel stuck because they don't make time for themselves. Maybe they need someone with them that remind them of who they are because they don't really know who they are.

THEY: Sooo...when do you think you'll start dating?

ME gives a weird look.

ME: Are you talking about sex here?

THEY: Nnnnnooooo....

ME: Sounds like you're talking about sex, here.

Be your own hot date. Today and Always.

Since divorce in 2017, I've learned that sex and love need to be inked for me. I can't just get into casual flings because my wiring is designed to attach. I'm not wired like a man. I'm a woman.

I tried the casual thing in my 20s, and even somewhat attempted it post-divorce while I was navigating life on my own terms.

Ultimately, it's not for me. It doesn't leave me happy or fulfilled. It leaves me frustrated. And it can be a distraction to what I'm creating in my life: Creating a business, finding a home to grow roots into, connecting with community.

I have faith that what is meant to be, will be.

Sex is like pizza - there's shit pizza made with shit ingredients, and there's amazing pizza with the freshest, tastiest ingredients to be savored.

Don't settle for shit.

Date yourself first.